Infertility can take an enormous emotional toll on couples who are desperately trying to conceive. The psychological implications on couples during this difficult time are well documented. With the financial burdens, physical strain and social pressures created by treatment, significant stress is common. In order to get through the infertility phase with as little problems as possible, it is important to remember a few crucial truths and tips.
Infertility is Not Your Fault
When confronted with infertility, many couples take the understandable route of blaming themselves. It is common to look critically at past decisions concerning conception, pregnancies, or even to take responsibility for your fertility problem, but this can lead to an unhelpful and self-destructive cycle that affects the happiness of the couple. Hindsight allows us to imagine how we might have made different choices, but this will not help with infertility treatment and is likely to add to the pain.
Remember that infertility problems have varied causes, all of which are either uncontrollable (sperm dysfunction, tubal damage) or occur as a result of everyday factors shared by most people at some point (i.e. diet, alcohol, medication).
Infertility is Stressful
For many couples, facing infertility is one of the toughest and most important challenges of their lives. It would be wrong to berate yourself for feeling the stress, sadness and pressure that is perfectly natural under these circumstances. Allow yourself to feel these things while also looking forward and remaining focused on your goal.
Work with Your Partner
Professionals believe that couples deciding to help each other can make all the difference to the way you deal with your difficulties. You present a united front and feel stronger when supporting each other. Work together while trying to conceive, during any treatment, and also with normal household tasks.
Get Medical Coverage
Many providers of medical insurance now provide coverage for the stages of infertility treatment process, including tests, medical treatments and the prescription of medication. You will, however, need to take time to investigate which medical insurance companies do offer this level of coverage and which do not, or you may be stuck with medical insurance that does not fit your needs and requirements.
Be realistic about finances and trying to conceive
Infertility treatment, whether fertility drugs or assisted conception, can be very expensive. As there is no guarantee that you will conceive using such methods, it may also be difficult to estimate how much money you could potentially spend. Speak to medical professionals about the full cost of any treatment cycle, and discuss your finances carefully as a couple. Reach a workable figure of how much you are prepared to spend in total.
It is unsustainable to continue with treatments indefinitely, even if you remain without a pregnancy. Decide at the outset how long you will try for a baby, talking over the issues with a doctor or counsellor if necessary. There are always other rewarding routes available if treatment proves unsuccessful.
There is no need to feel like the world is on your shoulders during this time. Talk to professionals who specialize in infertility, who can provide invaluable support and direct you to counselling services if that is what you need. Sharing your experiences with couples in similar situations can also be gratifying, as each couple truly understands what the other is going through. You can find such people through local support groups, and this in turn can lead to lowering your stress and potentially better chances of conception.