I will freely admit it; I can be quite awkward at parties. The idea of going to someone’s house, quite possibly someone I don’t know very well, and sitting around talking or doing whatever else is not always very appealing to me. However, when my friends all want to go out and I don’t want to be left behind, I must bear with my social awkwardness and try to make the best of it.
Over the past few years, I have learned some tools and tricks to make party-going less awkward. Hopefully, they will help you, too, so you don’t have to be bored or act like a killjoy when you go out with friends.
Having a Purpose
Sometimes, people feel awkward or strange at parties because they don’t feel like there is reason or purpose to the event. If there is just music and conversation at the party, sometimes that is not enough to make a person feel involved and interested.
If you find yourself in this kind of situation and don’t feel like you are enjoying the event as you should be, you could pipe up and suggest that you all play some kind of a board game or something, if that is appropriate for the situation. Suggesting a board game might be most appropriate if you are at a party at someone’s house and there are not too many people there.
If the situation is not necessarily appropriate for a board game, you might try to strike up a conversation with the people you know best at the party. That way, you can feel included and have things to talk about.
Letting Go of Fear
Sometimes, the debilitating factor for a person at a party is fear. They are afraid to let loose and have a bit of fun, even when many people around them are being more joyous and silly than usual. Letting go of fear and shame requires some training and determination, especially for the people who don’t normally let go.
First, you have to want to have fun at the event you are at. Convince yourself that there is fun that you are missing out on and that it is only a matter of changing your mindset. Let yourself be a little more outgoing than you would normally be. Strike up a conversation with a stranger. Dance a little bit if there’s music. Let yourself be.
My friend recently hired a company that does party rentals in Salt Lake City, and she invited me and a bunch of my close friends to a big party in downtown Salt Lake. I wanted to go because I didn’t want to be left alone, so I decided to make the most of the situation.
The party was a huge dance party, and I found myself having a lot of fun once I found a group that was dancing. I don’t really know how to dance, but I was just moving to the rhythm of the music, letting myself get a way out of my comfort zone, and I actually had fun that night.
Give It a Chance
Even if you have hated parties in the past, you should give them a chance again. Don’t let it be a barrier to your life if you don’t want it to be.