Do you feel like you are being strung along by the one guy you want to spend the rest of your life with?
Well, take a number and fall in line because you are not alone! There are thousands of single women out there who are hoping that their significant other will soon pop the question and put them out of their misery.
So how do you do it? How do you get your commitment-phobic boyfriend to ask you to marry him?
Listen up, because these tips could help you.
Don’t be Miss Needy
Nothing turns a man off more than a clingy mess of a woman.
Think about it. Do you want to be in a relationship with someone who keeps checking up on you and asking you about your weekend plans? Do you want somebody who always feels the need to spend every waking time together? Do you want to be with someone who can’t seem to do anything without you?
Do you want to be with someone who feels more like a stalker than a partner?
Of course not. And guess what? He probably also feels the same way!
You’ve got to learn to be independent. Recognize that there is more to life than your guy. Don’t let your world revolve around him—because that’s the easiest way to turn him away. Let him breathe for God’s sakes woman!
Do you think that hovering over him constantly and making him feel like a cornered animal will make him want to commit to you?
He will commit when he’s ready and not before. He will decide when he is ready—nobody else can make that decision for him. You can not make that decision for him, or make him feel that you are making that decision for him.
Instead, show him what kind of a woman you are, and what you’re made of. Show him how strong and independent you can be—show him what he’ll be missing in his life if he doesn’t put a ring on it.
Talk it out with a professional
Maybe there’s more to his commitment-phobia than what you see on the surface.
Some men are afraid of commitment because of significant events in their past. Perhaps they are a product of a broken home or they had a bad childhood, causing them to have abandonment issues. Maybe they’re afraid of getting hurt again.
Sometimes, the cause of their commitment-phobia is so deep-seated that you both may need professional help to resolve it. Talking about it between the two of you may not be enough.
Talk to your boyfriend and see if he is willing to seek professional help. Encourage him to do so (note: encourage, not force!). It won’t hurt to get a third person in on your issues to get some objectivity.
Learn to walk away
If all else fails, maybe you should consider putting yourself out of your own misery and walking away.
You can’t get strung along if you don’t allow it. It’s a bitter pill to swallow, but it may save you from further frustration. Besides, won’t you rather walk away now than years from today, when you’ve already invested so much into the relationship and get nothing from it?
You are a strong, capable woman—and you deserve to know where you stand.