One of the most difficult things that a person can do is to try to correct someone when they are in error. The ego can certainly get in the way when choosing to accept help from others. Addiction can make this even more difficult. For this reason, stepping in to offer assistance to someone, especially if it is unwanted, can be a delicate affair. Take into consideration the following information when trying to stage a successful intervention.
Preparation is Key
When planning to stage an intervention of a friend or family member, preparation is key. Due to the sensitive nature of the process, it is imperative to have a script and a plan in place beforehand. When planning an intervention for a loved one, consider the people most important in their life.
Be sure to include those people in the intervention, but avoid gathering a group that exceeds double digits. Too big of a group can be overwhelming and can feel like an attack on the person being intervened. A small, close-knit group of supporters with deep and personal ties to the person being helped can make the intervention more acceptable. Even if the intervention is not readily accepted, it will help it to run much more smoothly. Try to plan out all the details, such as location, people involved, what will be said, and what the next steps should be.
Seek Professional Help
There are some things that truly deserve the attention of a professional. Although having a professional present may be off-putting to the person receiving the intervention, do not hesitate to contact a professional for advice about the intervention. Make sure to give a detailed background of the person in order to receive the best advice, whether it is verbal advice or in-person assistance during the actual intervention.
One of the most important things about staging a successful intervention is being aware of the language that is used during the event. When emotions are running high and the adrenaline is pumping, it can be very tempting to do an ‘emotional dump’ on the person receiving the intervention.
Many times, friends and loved ones are forced to hold their tongues on multiple occasions leading up to the intervention. Once the intervention has been staged, it is important to keep positive thoughts and to avoid verbally attacking the person receiving the intervention. Although this seldom happens intentionally, it is important to be aware that it can completely derail an intervention.
Follow Through with an Action Plan
What good is an intervention without a follow through? Make sure to have definitive action steps to take after the intervention has been staged. The follow-through of the action plan can make or break an intervention. The intervention is like the seeds planted in the ground before harvest. Following through with an action plan is the harvesting process. Hopefully, the fruit that is harvested will be a loved one who is given an opportunity to break free of self-destructive behaviors.