If you’ve found yourself single for the first time in years, you might be feeling overwhelmed with the idea of dating again. You might not know where to start, what you want at this point, or where to go from here. The most important thing to remember is the same thing that everyone told you when you started dating the first time around – you have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. If that means buying new clothes, spending time alone, getting a makeover, or even looking into breast augmentation options, go for it! Here are three important things to remember when you’re ready to start dating again.
Spend Time Getting to Know You
Before you spend any time getting to know new people, make sure you know who you are. It’s easy to have forgotten some of the things you enjoyed before your ex, so take some time to remember. You’ll end up with a whole lot of unnecessarily awkward dates with people you realize you’re not interested in that you could avoid altogether if you have a good idea of what you have in common when you meet them. Go out with friends, or go out on your own to remind yourself what you’re really interested in or passionate about.
If you really love art but your ex didn’t want to go to galleries and museums, then find someone who will do these things with you. If you love running, get back into the swing of it and find someone who will join you in training for your next race. Likewise, if you really can’t stand jazz music, you don’t want to date someone who is a regular at the jazz club and only wants to take you there for dates.
Find New Things to Be Interested In
Don’t wait for a new relationship to try something new. If you’re jumping back into the dating scene and your life has been pretty boring for several years, you’re going to run out of stories to tell on the first date. Gather your friends and go on a singles cruise, or take a trip by yourself to explore Europe if you’ve never been. If your budget won’t let you go wild and crazy, then just check out a few new clubs, go to a part of the city you’ve never seen, or even just find a topic you’re really interested in and read about it to learn something new. Whatever you decide, just do something that’s fun for you and fun to talk about to others.
If there’s something about yourself that you don’t like, now is the time to improve it. There’s no room to be self-conscious in life, and especially not when you’re jumping back into the dating game. If you’re worried that you don’t have the sex appeal you once had, then now is the time to look into procedures such as breast augmentation to boost your confidence. If you feel like your style is too drab, then talk to a stylist and go on a shopping spree. If you don’t feel sexy in general, try a new haircut or hair color, or get a makeover and learn some new makeup tricks. Just make sure to do what makes you feel good about you, not what your ex said you should.