There are a number of things in life that can be extremely stressful, not least looking for a job. A situation that becomes increasingly stressful when you have been looking for a long time with no success. This stress can often lead to depression, which manifests itself in a number of ways, sometimes affecting relationships or in worst cases affecting your mental and physical health.
It is therefore important to know how to deal with these negative emotions that if left to themselves can spiral out of control and cause a lot of unhappiness. Keeping the 5 tips below in mind when you’re looking for a job will help you to stay positive and keep symptoms of stress and depression at bay.
Don’t let job rejections affect you
Everyone, at some point in their lives, will be turned down for a job and unfortunately this is just something that you must accept. Especially considering what a volatile economic environment the UK and the rest of the world has at the moment, which obviously has a negative effect on the job market.
The employment market has become saturated with candidates over the past 5 years, many of whom will be more experienced than you and so you must therefore accept that you are not being given certain jobs for a valid reason. If you have tried your absolute hardest in an interview and still don’t get the job, make sure you ask for feedback and this way you can try to improve on any areas where the interviewer felt you were lacking.
You’ve got to take these job rejections in a positive light and at the same time stay optimistic that when the right role comes along, you will get it. Keep your mind focused on the positives and try not to see rejection as something personal because it really isn’t.
Ask family, friends and professionals for help
Searching for a job can be a very lonely process and this in itself is very depressing so you should make sure that you keep your family and friends involved as you never know when they might be able to help you. For instance they might meet someone at a business event who happens to be looking for someone with your skills and the next thing you know, you’ve got a new job.
It can be very hard to admit that you need help and many people are often too proud to admit that they are struggling, however, be assured that you are not alone in feeling like this and that there are many professionals that can help you. That is what job centres are for after all. You just need to take the first step and ask for help and you’ll soon see how many people are available to assist you, whether you need CV and cover letter writing advice, over-all career advice or just general job seeking support.
Keep to a routine
When all your day is filled with job searching, it can be hard to motivate yourself to do anything and sometimes you might end up spending all day in your pyjamas, eating junk food or just surfing the internet for hours, none of which is very productive. You’ve got to try and keep to a routine, as you would do when in full time employment.
Make sure that you are getting up, showering and eating breakfast at a reasonable hour each morning and then settling down to look for a job. You should make sure that you have regular breaks and take the time to stretch and get some fresh air. It is a good idea to incorporate some exercise into your daily routine too, as this will keep your mind and body fresh.
Keeping a routine going in this manner ensures that you’re active and always have something on your mind and that you’re not focusing on the negatives of not having a job.
Sometimes if you are finding it very hard to even secure an interview, the best thing to do is retrain. There are many funded online and classroom led training courses available for people who have either been made redundant, or for those who have been out of work for a certain length of time.
Retraining will open up a number of other employment opportunities for you, as well as the ones you’ve been looking at previously and will also show potential employers how active and determined you are to secure yourself a new job. Learning new skills will also keep your mind active and keep negative emotions from creeping in and taking over.
Temporary or voluntary work
There are always going to be times when you feel like the negatives outweigh the positives, especially if you are just sat at home all day trawling recruitment site after recruitment site. So, in these times why not consider doing some temporary or voluntary work.
There always seems to be part time or temporary jobs going at restaurants and bars and so you should look at these as a way to keep yourself busy and earn a bit of money at the same time, keeping in mind that it’s not forever.
There is also the option of volunteering, perhaps in your local charity shop or for a charitable course, such as the Samaritans or St John’s Ambulance. Although you won’t get paid, you’ll soon realise that there are a lot of people worse off than you and you’ll also be keeping yourself busy and feeling good about giving something back to the community, all of which most definitely helps to keep depression at bay.
Pleas note that depression is a serious illness and if you are concerned about yourself or a loved one then contacting a local organisation such as Mind in the UK would be a good first step to making things better.