One of the most ubiquitous and atavistic instincts we humans all share is a deep love for our children and a desire to nurture them. But often these two innate essentials can be working at cross-purposes.
Too much love can lead to excessive lenience toward any activity your child wants to do – the first step towards spoiling them.
Too much nurturing can result in over-pressuring your kids toward scholastic and academic achievement that can lead to an overdeveloped fear-of-failure and a host of other problems, such as anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, and even suicide in some extreme cases.
A balanced approach to child rearing is what we all desire, but often that simple sounding solution is rare and enigmatic. Parental decisions must be made, frequently, and often on the fly with out much time for reflection and contemplation.
So instead of just practicing saying “No” in front the mirror so much that you become skilled at fashioning the perfect denial for any and every occasion, why not start with a few simple boundaries that you decide must not be crossed and take your child-rearing from there.
Don’t Play in the Street
If your children are frequently accompanied by their grandfather, you’re going to have a little trouble with this one. Grandpa will regale, especially the boys, with heroic tales of playing baseball, stickball, football, etc. in the street when he was a kid.
The story usually has some rebellious act, such as putting a ball through a neighbor’s window, as the exciting climax and grandpa and his pals all run-like-hell and get away.
The first thing to do is explain to elder family members that this is a very different world than the one in which they grew up. There are way more distractions for drivers than in the old days. So talk of playing games in the street is strictly forbidden around your kids.
The next thing you have to do is to attach an absolutely non-negotiable punishment for playing in the street, such as a full weekend’s grounding, or even worse for additional offenses, like allowance forfeiture.
Don’t Eat Sugar
There’s probably not a single person on earth that doesn’t like some foods to be sweetened with sugar. Chocolate would not enjoy its perch near the top of the list of most craved foods if it weren’t for the sugar that enhances it.
Sugar is not good for us. It promotes weight gain with non-nutritional calories. It is increases the risk of diabetes. It’s bad for your heart. It can increase depression while only providing momentary energy. It’s bad for your liver.
Kids don’t care about any of this, no matter how many times you tell them. But there is something you can mention that might get through to them. Sugar’s bad for their teeth and that mean more cavities. According to https://www.taylorwagnerfamilydentistry.com/, “Tooth decay is typically traced back to high sugar intake and incorrect brushing habits.
A simple way to deter cavities is by decreasing the amount of sugar in your child’s diet and encouraging brushing twice a day.”
Tell your kids; the more sugar they eat, the more cavities and more dental drilling they’re going to get. That’ll get them thinking.
Don’t Do Drugs
A research study by National Institute of Health revealed that about 50% of children are exposed to illicit drugs by the age of 7 years-old. By the time they reach 15, that number jumps to over 85%.
So no matter how hard you try to keep your children away from drugs, chances are that their schoolmates will not only relate to them the thrills of drug highs, but may supply the product as well.
Parents must be resolute on this subject – don’t do drugs, no matter what. Tell your children that if they do take drugs, there will be consequences not only with you, but also with law enforcement. Set boundaries and stick to them sterner than anything else – you do drugs; you lose all privileges. Period.
Don’t Talk to Strangers
Once your children arrive at the age of reason and, consequently, begin getting out of arm’s reach, they are going to encounter adults who they don’t know. They need to be told, succinctly, that just because an adult seems kind and polite does not necessarily mean that adult is safe for them to interact with.
Whether it’s in person or on the Internet, if your children encounter an adult they don’t know and have even the slightest inkling something’s amiss, they need to report any such encounter to their parents or teachers. There can be no wavering on that rule whatsoever.