How to Choose a Divorce Lawyer

On Aug 15, 2012

Divorce is such a tumultuous time for everyone involved. And sadly, the legal aspects of a divorce can often get messy. If you think the process will (or already has) turn ugly between you and your spouse, you may want to hire a divorce attorney.

While legal representation is entirely optional, you should consider seeking help if:

There has been abuse (spousal, child, sexual, or substance).
Your spouse is vindictive, or you suspect dishonesty will emerge.
If you and your spouse are struggling to reach an agreement about custody or finances.
Your spouse has hired a lawyer.

In addition to hiring a lawyer, you should take immediate action with the police if you fear your spouse will cause harm to you or your children. You should file for a temporary order for custody for your children to avoid kidnapping charges, and you may want to submit a restraining order.

Steps for hiring a divorce lawyer

In your search for a lawyer, you’ll want to find the best option that fits with your budget and lifestyle. To make the search process more accessible, follow these steps:

Start asking around for recommendations from friends and coworkers. The local bar association can also give you referrals.
You won’t want to select the first lawyer you meet with. Shop around a little. Find someone who suits you. Call several practices and schedule initial consultations.
Prepare for your meetings. Jot down a list of questions, concerns, and goals. You’ll also want to make notes regarding your expectations for property division, custody, and support.
Meet with each potential lawyer. Make sure you ask plenty of questions and make a note of the answers. This will help you later when you try to make a decision. Pose questions about the procedure, who will be handling your case, fees, and payment schedule.
Evaluate each candidate. Was there one who seemed competent, interested in your case, requested reasonable fees, and seemed compatible with your personality?
Cast your vote. Select a winner. Sign the lawyer’s fee agreement and schedule your first meeting.