The road to recovery from domestic violence can be long and arduous, but it is possible. Getting over all the pain and hurt will be difficult, but you will need to face it and accept what you’ve been through so that you can move forward. It will never be easy. You have to resolve to move on and get better. Leaving your abuser will not be enough – you have to learn how to act on your own and face the world anew after getting out of your situation.
It takes a lot of guts to leave the person who has stripped you of your strength and dignity through physical and emotional abuse, especially if you are convinced that you love that individual. Women often feel that being dominated and forced into submission by their male partners is common, so they tend to believe that the hurtful words and acts are part of the norm.
Even when things get worse, they can’t seem to bring themselves out of abusive relationships. They just quietly accept their situation and take everything inside of them, keeping mum about what they are going through. The worst part is believing that they deserve it.
The first thing that you should do to be able to move forward with your life is to leave your abusive partner. For a lot of women, this may be the hardest part. Often, you believe that they never meant to hurt you and that they will change soon enough. You can only take so much hurt and pain in a relationship, and in this case, it’s not worth it. Believe in yourself and know that you can make it by yourself. You will be better off alone rather than staying in a terrible situation.
Second and most importantly, forgive yourself. Accept that you can no longer change what happened to you, and don’t blame yourself for allowing it to go on as long as it did. There is no point in sulking anymore. This is your chance to renew your strength and rebuild your self-worth. Forgiveness is the key to moving forward. Let your desire to let go of your past fuel you for change and improvement. Gain back what you lost and work to achieve more.
Also, you have to learn how to deal with the trauma. The aftermath of domestic violence can be a torture, especially since you are trying so hard to live your life after it. You might suffer from anxiety, panic attacks, or depression even after you’ve left your abuser. Be sure to seek help. See a professional, join a support group, and talk to family and friends. Don’t keep what you’re going through to yourself. It will be easier to move on and accept things when you have the right support system to get you through.
Lastly, remember that healing is a process. Don’t expect to see changes in the way you see yourself and your life instantly. Work towards improving every aspect of your life, and learn to love and respect yourself more. Prioritize yourself and find things that will help you enjoy your life more. Find strength in being alone and seek the comfort of people who will be there for you in your new journey. Life will work out for you even after everything you’ve been through. A new chapter of your story has just started, and it will lead you to your own happy ending.