Top self-care tips for dealing with divorce
Most divorces in the UK are initiated on grounds of unreasonable behaviour or adultery. Either of these reasons can cause considerable emotional distress long after divorce proceedings have been finalised. Unreasonable behaviour may take the form of domestic violence, verbal abuse or alcoholism, all of which can cause physical and mental scars, while extramarital affairs can be equally devastating. How exactly are people expected to cope with life after divorce? Read on for several self-care tips.
An abusive, absent or unfaithful partner can shatter a person’s confidence. Especially when affecting relationships that involved a great deal of emotional and financial dependency, divorce can be a game-changer for those who have forgotten how to be alone, but it should not be seen as the end. Divorce can be a positive, liberating experience.
Identifying the need to accept and embrace freedom is not necessarily the first step to coping with divorce, but it is certainly among the most important. Residual feelings of love, affection and desire for a former partner can be as powerful as feelings of hate, anger and regret, but harbouring such strong emotions for an extended period after divorce can be harmful and unhealthy. Divorcees should appreciate and enjoy their freedom as part of the healing process.
Though a more positive response to divorce is recommended, there is nothing wrong with accepting and embracing the emotional consequences of a break-up, provided of course that this does not last forever. Feelings of hate, anger, love, pity, regret, frustration and abandonment are normal. Nobody should exclude these feelings completely, as denial rarely helps people overcome divorce.
Divorcees should accept that separation is unpleasant. There is no need to wear a brave face for anyone other than children, so repressing feelings should be limited. There is not