4 Ways to Find a Personal Sounding Board

4 Ways to Find a Personal Sounding Board

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4 Ways to Find a Personal Sounding Board
By: Timothy KrauseCC BY 2.0

No man – or woman – is an island. If you want to grow, and change, and learn, you need to talk to others. What you need is a personal sounding board, somebody who you can confide in, and discuss your problems with. You need somebody who can give you good advice without being judgmental. So how can you find a personal sounding board? Here are some tips:

Talk with family members

If you have a great, close relationship with your mother, father, a grandparent, or a sibling or other family member, you may be able to talk with them about your problems. But there are some caveats to doing so. First of all, if you are a parent, generally speaking you should not confide in your children about your problems, especially if they are minors. They are your children, not friends, and putting pressure on them by talking about your problems could cause issues with the relationship.

And if you confide if your parents, they may feel overprotective, and want to fix your problems for you, instead of simply being a personal sounding board.  So keep that in mind. Perhaps a sibling, if you are close with him or her, would be ideal for this, in showing an interest in your life, and listening to what you have to say, without trying to solve your problems or feel overwhelmed.

Talk with friends

Good friends should be able to serve as personal sounding boards for you. However, there are also some caveats with this. Do not make talking about your problems the sole focus of conversation. That will get old fast, and your friend will be bored with you. Also, keep in mind that if you are talking to your friend about a relationship gone wrong, and you get back with the person, the friend may hold a grudge. So choose your discussions wisely. And be sure to reciprocate and be there as a personal sounding board for your friend.

Talk with people at your job

Perhaps you have a mentor at work who can be a great personal sounding board. That is a great idea, if you have a relationship filled with trust.  But talking with people at work is another area that could be problematic. If you talk about your issues with a co-worker, the person could use that personal knowledge against you. So treat carefully.

Talk with a life coach

Discussing your goals, desires, and issues with a life coach could be very fulfilling for you. One of the things a life coach can do is be your personal sounding board. Unlike friends, family members, or co-workers, he or she has no agenda other than your fulfillment, so you do not have to worry if the advice is not in your best interest. You can listen and get advice from somebody who is an expert at helping others reach happiness.  To learn more about what a life coach can do for you, click here.