When we go through life we will meet so many people along the way, some of whom become so integral to the way we live that the very thought of losing them is incomprehensible. The sad fact is that a friend or family member could be taken away at any time and the natural reaction if this happens is to feel an indescribable level of emotional pain. It can feel as if everything else is suddenly insignificant and the hurt at losing this person and contemplating life without them is all you can see before you. Grief affects people in varying ways but there are some steps you can take in order to try to deal with the loss and live your life again.
The signs you are struggling to cope
The fact that death is as natural as life itself is something that is still hard to take immediate comfort from when someone close to you is gone. An overwhelming sense of grief can cloud all sense of judgement, rational thinking and perspective and there are some common signs that it is all too much for you to deal with.
The typical way to feel is that now this person has gone your own life holds no meaning. The grief can go much further than simply being something you feel inside and it can have some tangible effects on your life in general. This can include your relationships with other people and losing your appetite for food and indeed all aspects of your life. The days can begin to feel meaningless and you may begin to waste them.
How can you begin to turn things around?
The realisation that the person is gone is something that has to happen before you can move on so you should not try to supress your feelings. Allow yourself the time you need to mourn their passing and then try to focus your efforts on something new and worthwhile. Professional therapy is not something to avoid if you really need it and the positive effects can make an unspeakable amount of difference in allowing you to move on with your life. Grief can force someone to close themselves up and hide away from the world so do not be ashamed if this has happened to you – just know that there is a way out of it. Talk to people about how you feel and share the memories with those who also knew the person, you may be amazed at how much it helps.
Julie Millen lost her sister and through the support of those close to her and the help from findmeatherapist.org she was able to cope with the loss while continually doing justice to her sister’s memory.